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The Boyfriend Application: How I am Handling My Daughter Dating

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When my oldest daughter reached the age where she was old enough to date, I admit, I was panic stricken.  After all, you don’t even have to look deep in the headlines to know that either kids these days seem to lack a conscious more than we did or the rapid fire way that we can communicate information has brought to light more craziness than we were ever aware of before. Either way, there are some crazy folks out there, you can never be too careful.

I am an old fashioned girl (by today’s standards) and did not allow my daughter to date until she was 17. At 16 she could go out with a group of friends and her boyfriend could be counted as one of those friends. Even still, when her first legit boyfriend came around for the first time, all I wanted to do was ask a neighbor for a firearm so my husband could sit on the couch and pretend to be cleaning it when the boy arrived (ok, not really but you get the point). But, since I didn’t want to frighten the neighbors and fuel the rumor mill, I decided that arming my husband might not be the best idea.

I have an inkpad and can fingerprint the boyfriend and take a few mug shots though, right? Well, not if I ever wanted my daughter to speak to me again, so I compromised — he would have to complete the boyfriend application.  I mean, if he really has nothing to hide and he is genuinely interested in my daughter then surely he can take a few minutes to complete my application, right? So, development of the application began. What information would I want to have access to in the event that I needed to track them/him down if I could not reach my daughter on her phone? So, here is a list of the information we require to successfully complete the boyfriend application:

  • Name
  • Address
  • Cell phone #
  • DOB
  • License plate number
  • Car make and model
  • Parents name
  • Parents phone number

This is fair information to ask for, right?  I mean, I considered making a photocopy of the boys drivers license, but I try to be in tune with my girl’s feelings.

Truth be told, I think the only way I am going to survive two more daughters growing up and dating is to just stop watching the news, it’s just hard to trust anyone these days. How about you — how did you handle your daughters dating?

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  1. Jackie James 03/16/2013 at 5:43 pm

    I love this idea! I think it is only fair to ask for some info from someone who is going to be responsible for your child’s welfare.